Sometimes you are held to a stop by little things that happen in your life. Something that makes you think. You count your blessings and sometimes you get scared by the possibility of losing them.
The wonderful people that light your world, the comfort level you have achieved, the laughter time and space that you share with your loved ones.
If you consider the possibility of a life ending, and how it will affect all around that person, they will suffer with the loss as much as that person filled their lives. The hole is always as big as what you pull out.
Knowing that the people you love will suffer when you fade away someday, you might think that if you are as neutral as possible, they wont miss you as much. Not true. People will still remember you, if not for the good things, for the bad then.
They will still miss how much of a pain in the ass you used to be, how grouchy you could be, the stupid remarks you made and the bad calls you took. No matter what, we all make impacts in others lives.
As far as I can tell, the best choice is to let it all go natural. Being fun and being there for others, knowing how to laugh at yourself, experiencing and sharing together, sitting down and talking things over, having a special someone that you can pour your heart out to.
All this came from a movie I caught in the middle, not seeing the tittle. It's a great family movie, with an old man faced with it's eminent death due to cancer. That halts the whole family and causes an introspection over everyone's lives, the choices they all made, and leads to a general redemption. Having been a family that always dealt with problems by making jokes, they finally sit down and talk. So this man's announced final hour manages more that what they all expected. He changes his behavior, and starts fooling around, just having fun, and dragging his family with him. And probably the most important phrase in the movie is said by this old man on the verge of death: “It's not a sin to die... and neither is living”.
So we shouldn't be afraid to live, although in some cases it happens. We shouldn't be afraid of dieing, although sometimes it happens too. Guess what, being afraid is not a sin either. What might be considered a sin is that you don't give yourself to others, don't share joy's and worries, don't do for others what would be nice if someone did for you. In short, be a friend.
Everyone important to you should start out as being a friend. And they should never go beyond that status. Parents, uncles, girlfriend, wife... all that really matters is if they are your friends. From that, you can build a part of your happiness.
In closure, the right thing is not hiding from the world so that in case it all goes wrong, people wont get hurt. The right thing is to be a part of the big party of life, laughing your ass off, sharing and being forgiving.
A final word: don't be afraid of being ridiculous sometimes. We all are from time to time, and knowing how to deal with that helps you not taking yourself too seriously, which leads to good humor. Otherwise, you will never be as happy as you could have been, and your legacy will be somewhat... grouchy.
The wonderful people that light your world, the comfort level you have achieved, the laughter time and space that you share with your loved ones.
If you consider the possibility of a life ending, and how it will affect all around that person, they will suffer with the loss as much as that person filled their lives. The hole is always as big as what you pull out.
Knowing that the people you love will suffer when you fade away someday, you might think that if you are as neutral as possible, they wont miss you as much. Not true. People will still remember you, if not for the good things, for the bad then.
They will still miss how much of a pain in the ass you used to be, how grouchy you could be, the stupid remarks you made and the bad calls you took. No matter what, we all make impacts in others lives.
As far as I can tell, the best choice is to let it all go natural. Being fun and being there for others, knowing how to laugh at yourself, experiencing and sharing together, sitting down and talking things over, having a special someone that you can pour your heart out to.
All this came from a movie I caught in the middle, not seeing the tittle. It's a great family movie, with an old man faced with it's eminent death due to cancer. That halts the whole family and causes an introspection over everyone's lives, the choices they all made, and leads to a general redemption. Having been a family that always dealt with problems by making jokes, they finally sit down and talk. So this man's announced final hour manages more that what they all expected. He changes his behavior, and starts fooling around, just having fun, and dragging his family with him. And probably the most important phrase in the movie is said by this old man on the verge of death: “It's not a sin to die... and neither is living”.
So we shouldn't be afraid to live, although in some cases it happens. We shouldn't be afraid of dieing, although sometimes it happens too. Guess what, being afraid is not a sin either. What might be considered a sin is that you don't give yourself to others, don't share joy's and worries, don't do for others what would be nice if someone did for you. In short, be a friend.
Everyone important to you should start out as being a friend. And they should never go beyond that status. Parents, uncles, girlfriend, wife... all that really matters is if they are your friends. From that, you can build a part of your happiness.
In closure, the right thing is not hiding from the world so that in case it all goes wrong, people wont get hurt. The right thing is to be a part of the big party of life, laughing your ass off, sharing and being forgiving.
A final word: don't be afraid of being ridiculous sometimes. We all are from time to time, and knowing how to deal with that helps you not taking yourself too seriously, which leads to good humor. Otherwise, you will never be as happy as you could have been, and your legacy will be somewhat... grouchy.
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